Forgive or Die Sad (7 Hacks to Forgive Anyone and Free Yourself)

“That pussy whipped little bitch, he never wants to hang out any more. Sold out. I’m never gonna do that when I get a girlfriend” – me, circa 2010-2013.

Yeah fucken right.

It’s 2016 and I have a girlfriend and I put her in front of all my old guy friends.

It’s life, it happens.

We usually find a partner and our old mates get pushed to the side.

I thought I’d never do this. But here I am in 2016 and I am doing it haha.

And I’m entitled to do it might I add.

It is my choice to decide who I spend my precious time with on this Earth, just like it is everyone else’s.

Including my old friends who used to do this to me.

Back in 2010-2013 things like this used to make me feel replaced and sad.

I would call my mates “pussy whipped” in my head as if it would make me feel better.

It never did. I just wanted my old friends back.

Sorry if I was ever weird to you because we didn’t hang out like we used to, I was just missing the good old times.

I used to hold grudges too.

If someone pissed me off or upset me I used to cut them off.

No more talking.

I don’t know you.

I don’t think about you.

Your phone number would possibly be deleted from my phone and I would most likely not be very warm to you if I saw you out. (Man, I used to be a real bitch).

This is how I used to deal with people that hurt me. By getting back at them by deleting them from my life.

You have hurt me and now I’m gone. Bye, bye.


Reacting like this to someone that had hurt me didn’t make me tough or help me to get even, it actually made me ignorant and bitter.

And being bitter towards others is about as smart as trying to drink poison and hoping the other person dies.

Really this just shows that I was fragile and hurt.

As a child I was never properly taught how to deal with people that hurt me. And that’s okay because those that could have taught me most likely did not even know how to do it themselves.

Self reliance is the answer.

(It’s actually usually always the answer haha).

The ability to make the conscious decision to forgive.

To set myself free and grant myself inner peace.

(Did I mention that there is absolutely no better feeling than inner peace? Imagine complete inner calmness and ease at all times. The heaven we posses within us all).

However, inner peace comes at a price.

You must change your actions.

You must forgive EVERYONE that has ever hurt you and CONTINUE to forgive others that will hurt you in the future.

If you don’t think you can do this at least be willing.

Be willing and let the universe guide you to figure out the rest. We are all completely capable of doing this.

It will get easier as you begin to make it a habit.

But you must firstly try to make it a habit.

Here is a list of hacks to help you to forgive ANYONE in your life RIGHT NOW, this very second, today:

1. I forgive you for not being the person I wanted you to be:

This helps to put the problem back on yourself and take the heat off of the other person.

You wanted this person to act a certain way and they did not act in that way and instead they you let them hurt you.

You are trying to control them.

That is selfish.

“Man, I could only be happy IF Johnnie just did X,Y,Z”.

This is bullshit.

You can always be happy, right now and in any moment.

Let go of trying to control others and understand that you control your own happiness.

Self reliance.


You are tense over a crisis.

Where is the tension?

The only place it can be..

Within your own mind.

I forgive you for not being the person I wanted you to be.


2. Remember that we can only act a certain way in each moment due to all of our previous experiences combined:

If someone acts a certain way, this is all they knew to do at that exact moment in time.

For example YOU can only act a certain way, right now, in this very moment due to all of your past experiences.

How can you blame someone for their hurtful actions when they have not been fortunate enough to have received previous experiences that could have caused them to use better judgement?

(Warning. Serious epiphany below).

Remember that if you had had all of the exact same experiences of the person that has hurt you and you were born on the same day as them, you looked the exact same as them, you had the same parents as them and you had completely walked in their shoes up to the point in time that they had hurt you, YOU TOO WOULD HAVE DONE THE EXACT SAME THING AS THEY DID IN THAT MOMENT.


If you were that person, you would have acted in the exact same way because that is all you would have known to do in that very moment!


3. No one was born perfect.

No one was born perfect.

Even you yourself are imperfect. To take anger out on others for imperfections is HYPOCRITICAL.

I think the buck stops here on this point.

To get mad at others for imperfection means that we should get angry at our own selves for we too are imperfect and that’s just stupid. Plus I don’t really like getting angry at myself.


4. The people that are hardest to love, generally need it the most:

Do you know exactly what that other individual may have been going through in their life when you let them hurt you?

They may have had great pain inside.

Pain is pain and it can cause us to act irrational.

Mental pain activates the same parts of the brain when we feel physical pain.

Have forgiveness for others that act irrationally as they may be in great pain that you do not understand or know about.


5. Does this actually have to hurt me?

As long as it is mental pain and anguish, the answer is always NO!

This never has to hurt you unless you allow it to.

Try and stay conscious next time you are offended.

Consider who is actually offended?

Your ego.

Which is your false self.

Something you are trying to protect.

An insecurity of yours that has been poked.

Remove your insecurities and live free.

Realise that you actually do not HAVE TO GIVE A FUCK if someone says something to you.


Be awake and see this.

You are free as long as you choose to be!



6. You are not condoning this behaviour by forgiving someone, you are instead freeing yourself:

I know that some may argue, “but if I forgive this person how will they learn a lesson?”.

“Won’t they just do it to the next person?”

An extremely good and valid point.

And I have one quote that deals with this.

“Be the change that you wish to see in the world” – Ghandi.

You are not the universal sheriff.

You were not put here to establish law and order. To deal out punishment and justice.

You are not the Chuck Norris of cosmic order.

Leave this up to dhamma (cosmic order).

Instead be the change you want to see in the world.

If you want others to stop a wrong doing, you must not do the wrong doing yourself.

Be the change you want to see.

This is how you raise awareness.

On the individual level. It stays here and it starts here.

Do not force others to change. That will only bring pain and misery to both parties.

Instead BE the change you want to see.

Others will see this and take note.

Remember monkey see, monkey do.

You are the make up of the top 5 people you hang around.

Your influence on others is stronger than you think.


7. Other people have forgiven others for far worse doings:

Louis Zamperini, an ex-Olympic long distance runner and a former prisoner of war from World War II is a great influential example of someone that has forgiven others of great, great torment.

He was poorly mistreated as a prisoner of war by the Japanese army who repeatedly beat him, starved him and put him to work as a slave.

After his release he used to have nightmares of strangling his former captors because his previous experiences were so bad.

He drank to forget his problems.

His wife encouraged him to see the light within Christianity (I myself am not a Christian, but I do believe it helps many, many people).

Following this, he forgave his captors and the nightmares ceased.

Zamperini even went as far to visit his former captors in Sugamo Prison in Tokyo.

Here Zamperini expressed his forgiveness and in response many of his former captors became Christians themselves (an example of being the change you want to see in the world).

You can forgive anyone of anything. Let go of your nightmares and be free. It is the only way to more inner peace.

Who are you going to forgive today? Leave me a comment saying who and your chances to forgive this person will increase because you have written it out.

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5 Bullet Friday (25-9-15)

I’m a fan of Tim Ferriss.

He does the 5 bullet Friday. I want to do the 5 bullet Friday.

Here is my 5 bullet Friday e.g. 5 things I have found cool/interesting/useful to me this week.

1. Audio book: The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer (affiliate link biatch).

Last week was tough for me. I forgot how to be happy. Sometimes I feel depressed.

This book reminds me of how I can find inner peace and happiness within my world.

I have listened to this audio book once this week and by this coming Sunday it will be twice.

My inner peace has improved dramatically due to this book :).

2. Podcast: 5 Morning Rituals that Help Me Win the Day.

If you get the morning right, the rest of your day should follow.

Basically, this podcast is about what Tim Ferriss does every morning to set his day off to a good start.

(Note that the most successful people have some form of morning ritual they do every morning to set their day straight).

Two things I have taken from this podcast:

  • Extending my morning meditation from 5 minutes to 20 minutes.
  • Making my bed in the morning.

3. Headphones: Beats by Dr Dre Solo2.

If you can’t tell by points 1 and 2 I like audio…

And if you listen to as much audio as I do (roughly 1 hour minimum per day), you need to have good headphones in order to maximise the listening pleasure.

I like Dr Dre so I brought his brand. Street cred. Whaaat.

4. Be a kid again:

Children are playful.

Kids laugh way more than adults.

Kids also have way more fun than adults.

I was feeling down last Sunday… UNTIL I went around to my girlfriends house and played with her little sister.

She’s 13 and knows how to have fun.

She’s always outside running around, doing back flips and making jokes.

Here’s a photo of us playing outside and having FUN!



5. The power of NO:

“Can you come in and work tomorrow before you start your other job”?


“Can you help me out with this little thing”?


“Can I tell you about something negative”?


If you don’t want to do something… SAY NO!

Life is short and precious.

Imagine when your time is up you are given an invoice for your life that details how your time was spent…

How many hours will you have under the category “Doing things you didn’t really want to do”.

I want as less hours as possible.

Here is a book I read about the Power of NO (yes, another affiliate link).

So that’s my first ever 5 Bullet Friday.

Please feel free to share one piece of information with me that you would include in your own 5 Bullet Friday in the comments section below.

I read all comments so please, enlighten me.


– Jordan


My favourite quote

I am not going to copy and paste this quote over from the webpage I have found it on,


I am going to rewrite the whole piece from scratch.

The Man in the Arena by Theodore Roosevelt.

“It is not the critic who counts;

not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles,

or where the doer of deeds could have done them better…

The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena,

whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood;

WHO strives valiantly;

WHO errs;

WHO comes short again and again,

Because there is no effort without error and short coming;

But who does actually strive to do the deeds;

Who knows great enthusiasms,

the great devotions;

who spends himself in a worthy cause;

who at the best knows in the end triumph of high achievement,

and who at the worst,

if he fails,

at least fails while daring greatly,

so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

Spoken by me…

I don’t know about you guys, but this quote gives me chills.

This quote gives me the power to help myself attempt all the daunting obstacles in my life.

This quote empowers me to embrace failure, and rebel against the regret of inaction.

I was hoping to share that with you.

I want more good quotes. Share me your favourite quotes in comments, please.

Why I started an investment account and what I spend it on

So, I started an investment account around May this year (2015).

Why: I would rather spend my money on investing in myself, rather than spending it on crap.

e.g. take out food, unnecessary luxuries and god knows what else.

How: 5% of whatever I make goes into this account.

e.g. If I make $100 at work, $5 goes into the account.

What: Here’s what investments I have made so far…

Note: I consider spending money on self improvement/development as an investment.
  • 25/5/15 – New jeans. I basically have one good pair of jeans I wear to work.
    My last pair got a hole in them, so I invested in a new pair.

    I consider this an investment as I need to wear decent clothes to work otherwise I would look like a bum and in my opinion looking like a bum makes it much harder for others to give you opportunities.

    Nobody trusts a sloppy looking bum.

  • 13/7/15 – Audible download (Mp3 audio book). The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer (affiliate link).

    I heard the author (Michael Singer) get interviewed on a James Altucher podcast.

    Here is the iTunes link to the James Altucher podcast episode – (See episode 119).
    Or if you wanna check the episode out right now you can listen to it online via this link to James’ blog.

    Basically, the book is about finding inner peace (I mean, who doesn’t want more of that right?).

    Books like this should be part of all schooling curriculum’s (in my opinion).

    I wish someone told me about this stuff when I was much younger.

    If you’re feeling down, upset, depressed or stuck… Like me when I bought this book, this will work for you.

  • 3 X monthly payments ($150 $US) to my business coach Jared Elrod AKA. porn star name: J-Rod, AKA. Mexican wrestler name: El Rod.

    His coaching sales page (No affiliate link).
    His website (No affiliate link).

    For me to get shit done I sometimes need someone to hold me accountable… Jared is great for that, even if I have to pay him for it haha.

    Not to mention that he also provides great advice and is a bit of an online O.G.

  • 21/8/15 – Audible download (Mp3 audio book). The Undefeated Mind: On the Science of Constructing an Indestructible Self by Alex Lickerman (Affiliate link).

    I came across this book by accident while surfing Amazon.

    The title took me in…

    “The Undefeated Mind”.

    The title sounded badass and the book so far has turned out to be pretty badass itself. I’m about half way through, but so far, so good.

    As the title denotes, the book is about creating an indestructible self.

    If one had low self esteem/felt mentally weak/was not achieving the success in life they desire I would recommend this book.

So that’s my list of investments so far.

Not one item in that list have I regretted spending money on.

My next investment will most likely be a new laptop. Upgrade to a Mac baby!


My woo woo morning and night rituals.

In case the video is not clear.. As it may be a little all over the shop..

Basically, this is what I do morning and night to help set my day straight and help me stay productive and happy.

There is a quote by some one that I cannot remember… “A good night, will lead to a good morning”.

This is why I have started with the evening first.


1. Write a to-do list of aprox. 6 items for the next day.

2. Play track number 45 of this podcast…

3. Set a sleep timer within the podcast app/a clock timer for 5 mins.

4. Close eyes and lay down.

5. Feel happiness throughout your body, feel laughter throughout your body (e.g. literally laugh out loud), feel freedom throughout your body. Then feel all three at the exact same time throughout your whole body.

6. Continue on to visualise the tasks you have to do throughout the next day from start to finish. From getting out of bed – to going to sleep the next night.

(Remember to visualise all tasks getting done smoothly, effectively and most importantly ENJOYABLY!).

7. Once the timer goes off go straight to bed as you want to have your to-do list as your last thought before you nod off, so that your subconscious mind will be thinking about these tasks while you sleep e.g. auto-pilot mode, e.g. super convenient, e.g. nice.


1. Play track number 45 of this podcast…

2. Set a sleep timer within the podcast app/a clock timer for 5 mins.

3. Sit in chair and close eyes.

4. Try to think of NOTHING for 5 minutes.

Reasoning for this: The mind is like a wild stallion – hard to control. The meditation technique of trying to quieten and control the mind by thinking of nothing is aimed to help you throughout the day to stay mindful of your thoughts. e.g. It is bad to think negatively all day, therefore this technique will further help you to notice your thoughts when you may fall into a negative thinking pattern.

5. Timer goes off. Repeat steps 1-3.

6. Feel happiness throughout your body, feel laughter throughout your body, feel freedom throughout your body. Then feel all three at the exact same time throughout your whole body.

6. Continue on to visualise the tasks to be done today from start to finish. From the first task to be done, to going to bed that night.

(Remember to visualise all tasks getting done smoothly, effectively and most importantly ENJOYABLY!).

7. Once timer goes off you are done.

Try this and see if it improves your productivity.

Make sure you tick off each item on your to do list as you complete each task as this will further improve this technique.

100 people I would like to interview

So, my business coach – Jared Elrod is helping me set up my new podcast.

Not Another Start Up Podcast.

He has suggested I come up with a list of 100 people I would like to interview.

No questions asked. I have done so.

Here is my top 100.

(I have provided a wiki link to anyone that may be a little foreign to mainstream status).

100 People I would like to interview:

  1. James Altucher
  2. Noah Kagan
  3. Jared Elrod (My biz coach)
  4. A hard core Buddhist monk (that had humour, not massively straight edge).
  5. My girlfriend.
  6. My dad.
  7. Tony Robbins
  8. Mike Tyson
  9. Ricardo Mayorga (boxer)
  10. Will Smith
  11. 50 cent
  12. Dr. dre
  13. Snoop dogg
  14. An Olympic gold medallist
  15. Tim Ferriss
  16. Deepak chopra
  17. Ice-T
  18. Neville Medhora
  19. Matt Groening
  20. Kostya Tszyu
  21. Eddie Griffin
  22. Aziz Ansari
  23. Sacha Baron Cohen
  24. Dalai Lama
  25. Dick Costelloe (Not sure how to exactly spell last name) (CEO of Twitter).
  26. Arnold Schwarzenegger
  27. John Bon Jovi
  28. Jay Jay French (Twisted Sister member and founder)
  29. Michael Singer
  30. Wayne Dyer
  31. Eminem
  32. Rhonda Byrne (Secret)
  33. Marc Ecko
  34. Rick Rubin
  35. Jimmy Iovine
  36. Michael Jordan
  37. Danny Green
  38. Ex-drug addict that has made it through rehab/12 step program
  39. Stephen Hawking
  40. Vegan meal planner
  41. Alkaline dietician
  42. Someone who beat a really tough cancer without medical treatment
  43. Professional dog trainer
  44. Ex-Marketer from Nike
  45. Joseph Murphy (Author of “The Power of Your Subconscious Mind” – affiliate link)
  46. Founder of PETA (I think Ingrid is her name?)
  47. Ex-marketer from Coke-a-Cola.
  48. Mark Walberg
  49. Dicky Eklund (boxer/ex-drug addict)
  50. Micky Ward
  51. Sugar Ray Leonard
  52. Christian Bale
  53. Birdman
  54. Shaq
  55. Kobe Bryant
  56. Michael Chieka (Wallabies, Australian Rugby Union coach)
  57. The guy who came up with the movie idea for Space Jam.
  58. Founder/CEO of Greenpeace.
  59. Tony Hawk
  60. Bam Margera
  61. Brandon DiCamilo
  62. Pharrell Williams
  63. Terry Kennedy
  64. Antwaun Dixon
  65. Old school marketing dude. Like some guy from Mad Men
  66. Russell Simmons
  67. Miranda Sings
  68. The old man down the street who will not die
  69. Someone who overcame suicide
  70. The Honey Badger
  71. Freddie Roach
  72. Johnny Lewis
  73. Floyd Mayweather
  74. Kevin Rooney (Mike Tyson’s old boxing coach)
  75. Someone who sets the odds for a sports betting agency (how is it done, behind the scenes)
  76. Anyone that has healed them self from Asthma
  77. A guy that used to work as ex-casino security (looking for people fixing the odds).
  78. Jack Delosa
  79. Donald J. Trump
  80. Pat Riley
  81. Creator of Dragon Ball Z
  82. Creator of Pokemon
  83. Wanderlei Silva
  84. Chuck Liddell
  85. Ken Shamrock
  86. A billionaire – To ask them about their work ethic/daily/weekly routine, interesting people they have met.
  87. Quentin Tarantio – I would ask about his creative process.
  88. Denzel Washington – How he started out/work ethic.
  89. A boxing referee – Craziest things he’s seen in the ring.
  90. Miguel Cotto – Work ethic.
  91. Hypnotherapist
  92. Joseph McClendon III
  93. Anthony Mundine
  94. Wayne Bennett
  95. Ice Cube
  96. Jenna Marbles
  97. Current CEO of Apple computers.
  98. Kendrick Lamar
  99. Loosest Aussie bloke YouTube guy
  100. A professional boxing strength and conditioning coach
  101. Top negotiator e.g. car salesman, real estate agent – how they make you sweat.

I lied. 101 people I would like to interview :)